The Drama That Comes With the Territory

          As many may have learned, it is not as easy as it seems.  I’ve been a mom for six years now.  Through my journey, it has not been easy.  I never thought I would be at it alone, but here I am trying to make the best of a situation.          I come to realize that raising my son is not the hardest thing.  Dealing with the drama that my child’s father put out, it is probably the hardest thing that I will ever have to deal with.

                He’s done so much to try and destroy me.  I’ve been a victim of physical and mental abuse.  Even today the mental abuse lives on.  YOU ASK YOURSELF: “WHAT HAVE I DONE TO DESERVE THIS?”  The answer is that you have done nothing.  THE REAL QUESTION IS: “WHAT WILL YOU DO ABOUT IT?”  If he put more effort into putting you down than being there for his child, there is something seriously wrong.  Depending on your situation, you’re forced to make some of the biggest decisions.  Your choices are not as easy as they would have been if there weren’t a child involved.  You question his motives.  “Are you in our world to be a father or make my life miserable?”

                As much I would like to think I am, it dawned on me that I am not alone.  This is the life that some of us live.  We have to deal with immature men who call themselves a father.  There is more to the title than just a name.  Some people are truly crazy, I just happen to have one as a baby dad.  It’s crazy because he seems to think I’m the one that’s crazy.  Silly little rabbit….

Even if you weren’t a victim of abuse, there is still some negativity that comes with the territory.  You got to deal with this man for the rest of your life.  You’re going to have disagreements.  That is normal.  He’s going to want to know who you living with.  You ask: “WHAT DOES THAT HAVE TO DO WITH YOU?” True enough, he may have the right to know.  It depends on his reason for wanting to know.  But if he is not doing his part, it is none his business.  As long as you’re doing right by your child, it is ok to pick and choose what he needs to know.  You ask simple things: “CAN YOU WATCH YOUR SON OR DAUGHTER WHILE I GO TO WORK?”  His response would be that he has something to do.  You know better.  He might see his child once a month.  He actually thinks that he is doing something.  He might give him $5 to put in his pocket.  Is he serious?  To me, if you doing very little then you ain’t doing nothing at all.  What good is he to you or your child?  But you put up with all the bull because there is a bigger picture than you.(An innocent child)  There is so much that come with the territory.  I could go on for days.  Every situation is different!!!!

PluG: Check out my new short story “Ravaged by Karma: My Choice of Men”

In order to help others like you, I ask that you post an issue that you have had with the father of your child and how you went about handling it……